Why treat your son’s wife unjustly?

A married woman will go to her parent’s home with her husband for a short visit, after exchanging pleasantries, everyone will start running around to make sure their son in-law is comfortable.

He will be well fed, well entertained and well taken care of.
No one expects him to lift a finger to do anything, because he is a special guest, their daughter’s husband.

Turn the table

A married man goes to his parent’s home with his wife for a short visit, immediately after exchanging pleasantries, everyone will start looking at their son’s wife with corner eye to see if she’ll go to the kitchen and join in cooking.

She will sometimes be expected to take over the cooking and serve everyone, with a broad smile on her face.

After meal, they will be watching her to see if she will clear the table, wash the plates and clean the kitchen.
No one gives her any special treatment like the special guest she is.
Afterall who is she?
An ordinary woman!

If she doesn’t do any of the chores expected of her, her mother in-law will start ‘beefing’ her and may become hostile towards her.
Her sisters in-law will start grumbling and sometimes become outright rude to her.

She will be called for a meeting, her home training will be questioned and her wife material length measured.
She will be berated, called lazy, mannerless and all sorts of derogatory names.

Her husband will even be chastised for not controlling and disciplining his wife enough. She may most likely leave her in-law’s home sad, physically and emotionally drained.

What was meant to be a short vacation or visit eventually turns out to be hard labour filled with misery, tears and regrets.

My annoyance is that it’s always women making life uncomfortable and miserable for their fellow women in cases like this.

It’s always women who encourage or make excuses for men who go out of their way to hurt or harass their fellow women.

It’s always women putting unnecessary pressure on their fellow women.

It’s always women who are the gatekeepers of patriarchy.
ยป Can’t a woman visit her in-laws and be treated special for the few hours or days she will stay, just like we do to our sons in-law when they visit us?

Take it or leave it, most married women in our society would rather spend holidays with their own family than with their in-laws, because of the above reasons.

Counselor Goodnews Ogechukwu

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